dysregulation

What if You Don’t Always Need to Calm Down?

In therapy, we often talk about emotional regulation–focusing on how to manage feelings in healthy, effective ways. We talk about dysregulation as though it’s something bad, something to be avoided or “fixed” with breathwork, mindfulness, or reframing our thoughts. As a therapist, I’ve fallen into this mindset too. When a client shows up dysregulated, my instinct is to help them calm down. There’s value in that, as sometimes soothing the nervous system is absolutely essential to [...]

Boundary Setting: It’s not you, it’s me (seriously)

Nature even likes to draw the line! These days, we hear the word “boundary” thrown around a lot. One might say “I set a boundary with my partner the other day and told her she needs to stop calling me so much”, or “I set a boundary and told them to not talk to me like that”. While these examples might feel good to say in the moment, they aren’t actually boundaries, because they [...]

2024-10-05T01:07:30+00:00September 25, 2024|Tags: , , , , , |
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